The holidays should be a magical time for children and their parents. When there’s a divorce, adult issues can crop up and consume a child’s joy.
We created this three-part video series to help divorced parents reduce the chance for conflict so their children can have a happy holiday with both sides of their family.
Common Holiday Issues Divorced Parents Experience
One of the most common ways an ex-spouse can hurt your holidays is to flout the parenting plan. They may drop off the children late or arrive entirely too early to pick them up, thereby cutting short the children’s time with you.
Another scenario: one parent may refuse to let the other parent see the child altogether, or they may cause a scene in front of the child.
These actions likely contradict the court-ordered parenting plan. There are specific state laws to help divorced parents remedy these kinds of problems.
Need Help with a Holiday Parenting Time Issue?
We understand conflict can occur despite the best efforts. If this happens during your child’s holidays, we are here to help you explore your legal options.
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Video One: The Best Way to Reduce Potential Conflict
In this video, family law attorney Mark Smith tells you one of the best ways to thwart problems during the holidays so your kids can enjoy them with both sides of their family.
Always. Plan. Ahead.
The most important thing to do is to plan ahead, to really contemplate specifically what you have to think about for the holidays in terms of how you want to allocate Thanksgiving, how you want to allocate Christmas, how you want to divide what often is a Christmas break.
I think the most important thing is always to sort of focus on what’s going work the best for your children and what’s going allow them to have the most joyous holidays that they possibly can have.
Both Families = Best Holiday Experience
The key to the best holidays for your kids is family. Not only your family, but the family of the opposing part as well, because they’re all part of the child’s family.
Your child or children draw a great deal of joy and happiness and support from both sides of their family.
So it’s important not only to plan what you’re doing with your time, but also how to plan for the time with the children with the other side as well.
Tips if You Have Not Yet Created a Holiday Schedule
The first important thing is to do with the planning is to really contemplate it. Quite often, people plan for the holidays when they’re doing their divorce and resolving their parenting plan in July or August, and the holidays seem quite a ways away.
However, it’s important to be very specific about how you would like to spend the holidays with your child and how you’ll share that time with your spouse or ex-spouse.
A lot of people will divide the day. They’ll take Thanksgiving and they’ll divide it, or they might have Thanksgiving defined as not only the day, but also the weekend that follows it, and they will define when Thanksgiving will start, quite often as the Wednesday before.
So all of these details are important to think about, to plan for. How do you want to divide it? What do you want it to be defined as? And to plan ahead.
Communicate with the Other Parent
It also, important that the communication between you and your ex-spouse, the parent of the child, in terms of how you wanna plan this ahead, not only at the time that you’re resolving your case, but also as each holiday approaches.
To prevent confusion that could lead to confrontation, communication with your ex-partner well in advance of the holidays. Make sure you both understand how the day, weekend, or week will be divided.
Also, make sure you both understand the exchange. In other words, what time with the children be picked up or dropped off and where?
The best way to stave off any problems is to find a way to plan ahead and to communicate well in advance.
Video Two: Your Legal Options if Your Ex-Spouse Disrupts Your Child’s Holiday
Family law attorney Mark Smith touches on your legal recourse if your ex-spouse disrupted your child’s holiday schedule with you, in this video.
Good holiday planning always starts with planning ahead and contemplating how to divide the holidays.
However, if, in fact, you run into problems around dividing the holidays, the next questions become: What do we do? How do we approach this? How do we resolve this?
Colorado Law Addresses Parenting Time Problems
There are specific laws in Colorado designed to assist you, should problems arise with regard to parenting time and, specifically, with regard to the holidays.
Quite often, an ex-spouse may not show up on time; they may show up too soon; or they may not be cooperative.
There are legal remedies that allow you to ask the court to fix this.
Legal Ways to Correct Holiday Time Issues
Those remedies include things like make-up parenting time. If a parent flagrantly disregards the holiday parenting plan, a judge may hold that individual in contempt of court.
If you want to have a good holiday with your children, you want to focus on your children, having a joyous holidays, quite often, you have to fix things after the fact.
If you need any sort of assistance about holiday parenting time, please give us a call at 303-688-0944. We can help you find the best solution for your child and you.
Video Three: If You Have Problems with Your Child’s Other Parent this Holiday Season
Family law attorney Mike Smith offers more details in this video about how we can help you fix holiday co-parenting issues.
If you’ve run into problems, if you’ve experienced difficulties, or you contemplate that you’re going to experience those kinds of difficulties, we would certainly love the opportunity to see what we could do to assist you with that.
If you feel like you could use the assistance of our firm, please call us at 303-688-0944 or click here to set up your free initial consultation.
We would love for the opportunity to do a case analysis for you, to determine what can be done about your case and how we can assist you.