Divorces with children and custody dispute matters are among the most contentious family law cases. Emotions run high because there is a lot to lose — time with your kids. That’s why it’s important to practice self-control and maintain your composure. We completely understand that is tough to do at times, but it will benefit you and your children in the long run. Putting into practice the five tips below will also help your case for more parenting time.
No. 1 Promote Your Ex (to your kids)
It may not be easy, but the court wants to know that you encourage your kids to have a relationship with their other parent. For example, if your child tells you about the fun weekend they had with your ex, you can respond with, “I am so glad you had a good time with (mom/dad)!” This lets your child know it’s OK to love their other parent.
This one is a biggie. It’s actually in Colorado’s best interests of the child statute, and it’s a major factor the court will consider when it hears your case.
No. 2 Don’t Overdo It
A cocktail or glass of wine occasionally is fine, but you do not want to be accused of being drunk around your kids. Also, don’t post pictures of yourself at clubs and bars on social media. If you do have an alcohol or drug problem, you should seek help immediately.
No. 3 Make Your House Their Home
In addition to creating a stable, safe environment for your children, your house should also feel like home to them. Going back and forth between houses can sometimes make children feel unsettled. Ensure your kids have a comfortable space they can call their own in your home.
No. 4 Be Careful Online
The old adage “if you have nothing nice to say, say nothing at all” goes a long way as you try to get more parenting time. It may be tempting to vent about your ex on social media but don’t. Negative remarks can be presented in court and can damage your case.
No. 5 Consider New Romance Carefully
If you are not dating, it isn’t a bad idea to keep it that way until after a new custody arrangement is in place. If you’re already involved with someone, make sure the relationship is healthy enough for your children to be exposed to it. The standard advice is no sleepovers with your romantic partner while your kids are with you until after the custody hearing.
Build a Strong Case for More Parenting Time
We understand that the time you have with your children is precious because it is so fleeting. Find out how we can help you during mediation or present a strong case in court if necessary. Call 303-688-0944 to begin your case assessment.