Have a Great Holiday: Part One

November 10, 2020 | Bill Henry

The holidays should be a magical time for children and their parents. When there’s a divorce, adult issues can crop up and consume a child’s joy.

We created this three-part video series to help divorced parents reduce the chance for conflict so their children can have a happy holiday with both sides of their family.

Common Holiday Issues Divorced Parents Experience

One of the most common ways an ex-spouse can hurt your holidays is to flout the parenting plan. They may drop off the children late or arrive entirely too early to pick them up, thereby cutting short the children’s time with you.

Another scenario: one parent may refuse to let the other parent see the child altogether, or they may cause a scene in front of the child.

These actions likely contradict the court-ordered parenting plan. There are specific state laws to help divorced parents remedy these kinds of problems.

Need Help with a Holiday Parenting Time Issue?

We understand conflict can occur despite the best efforts. If this happens during your child’s holidays, we are here to help you explore your legal options.

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Always. Plan. Ahead.

The most important thing to do is to plan ahead, to really contemplate specifically what you have to think about for the holidays in terms of how you want to allocate Thanksgiving, how you want to allocate Christmas, how you want to divide what often is a Christmas break.

I think the most important thing is always to sort of focus on what’s going work the best for your children and what’s going allow them to have the most joyous holidays that they possibly can have.

Both Families = Best Holiday Experience

The key to the best holidays for your kids is family. Not only your family, but the family of the opposing part as well, because they’re all part of the child’s family.

Your child or children draw a great deal of joy and happiness and support from both sides of their family.

So it’s important not only to plan what you’re doing with your time, but also how to plan for the time with the children with the other side as well.

Tips if You Have Not Yet Created a Holiday Schedule

The first important thing is to do with the planning is to really contemplate it. Quite often, people plan for the holidays when they’re doing their divorce and resolving their parenting plan in July or August, and the holidays seem quite a ways away.

However, it’s important to be very specific about how you would like to spend the holidays with your child and how you’ll share that time with your spouse or ex-spouse.

A lot of people will divide the day. They’ll take Thanksgiving and they’ll divide it, or they might have Thanksgiving defined as not only the day, but also the weekend that follows it, and they will define when Thanksgiving will start, quite often as the Wednesday before.

So all of these details are important to think about, to plan for. How do you want to divide it? What do you want it to be defined as? And to plan ahead.

Communicate with the Other Parent

It also, important that the communication between you and your ex-spouse, the parent of the child, in terms of how you wanna plan this ahead, not only at the time that you’re resolving your case, but also as each holiday approaches.

To prevent confusion that could lead to confrontation, communication with your ex-partner well in advance of the holidays. Make sure you both understand how the day, weekend, or week will be divided.

Also, make sure you both understand the exchange. In other words, what time with the children be picked up or dropped off and where?

The best way to stave off any problems is to find a way to plan ahead and to communicate well in advance.

Need Help with a Holiday Parenting Time Issue?

Even the best laid plans aren’t always enough. If you feel like you need assistance to preemptively take on holiday planning problems, begin your free case assessment today. Just click here or call 303-688-0944.

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