No. 1 Be Careful Online
“If you have nothing nice to say, say noting at all” will go a long way as you try to get more parenting time. It may be tempting to vent about your ex on social media, but don’t. Negative remarks can be presented in court and can damage your case.
No. 2 Don’t Overdo It
A cocktail or glass of wine occasionally is fine, but you do not want to be accused of being drunk around your kids. Also, don’t post pictures of yourself at clubs and bars on social media. If you do have an alcohol or drug problem, you should seek help immediately.
No. 3 Make Your House Their Home
In addition to creating a stable, safe environment for your children, your house should also feel like home to them. Going back and forth between houses can sometimes make children feel unsettled. Ensure your kids have a comfortable space they can call their own in your home.
No. 4 Promote Your Ex (to your kids, of course)
It may not be easy, but the court wants to know that you encourage your kids to have a relationship with their other parent. For example, if your child tells you about a fun event they had your ex, you can respond with, “I am so glad you had a good time with (mom/dad)!” This let’s your child know it’s OK to love them, too.
No. 5 Consider New Romance Carefully
If you are not dating, it isn’t a bad idea to keep it that way until after a new custody arrangement is in place. If you’re already involved with someone, make sure the relationship is healthy enough for your children to be exposed to. The standard advice is no sleepovers with your romantic partner while your kids are with you until after the custody hearing.